Just an Update

We haven't heard any recent news.  We have been told there were some recent birth mothers in, but none of them fit our profile.  I talked with our social worker, and she said the best think that we can be doing right now is praying for our birth mother.  She is out there some where.  We need to be praying for her spiritually and physically.  Other than that, we are just waiting.  It is all going to happen in God's time! :o)

NEWS FLASH

Sorry it has been a while since I have posted anything.  We were just in a waiting period.  Our social worker, Sarah, was pregnant when the last time I had posted, and now she has since had her baby.  With her being the only one here at the Fayetteville location, the place had kinda shut down.  So, we are now talking to the Little Rock office.  

Let me back up just a little.  I had been calling Sarah before she had her baby, and talking with her.  She told me she had several other families that she was working on writing up their home study too.  She said that she could not officially say that we were approved, but for us to go ahead with making our profile books.  So, that is what we did.  The profile books are what the birth mothers look at to choose the family they want their baby to go and live with.  We had to make 3 of them, one for the Little Rock office and two for the Fayetteville office.  The books tell all about us, our marriage, favorite things we like, our home,  and families.  So, it took some time and lot of help.  I called the Little Rock office and they said that another social worker would be here in Fayetteville on 9/9/09, and if we wanted to we could drop off the books to her, instead of having to mail it to Little Rock.  So that was our deadline to finish the books.  My Mom, Dad, and Brother all came up last Saturday to watch the first Razorback, and to help with the books.  I was so happy to have them be a part of this.  We finished all 3 books that night.  I took them to Jana on Wednesday, and was so excited to turn them over to her.  Now, we are waiting on the birth mother to come in and look at our book and choose us to be parents of her child.  

We don't know how long this will take, but we know that it will happen on God's time.  It is all in His hands now.  That is where we are right now.  We are just patiently waiting to hear that someone has chosen us to be parents!  Please keep us in your prayers during this time! :o)

Interviews

I talked with Sarah last Wednesday about our interviews.  She said that we had a couple of options on what we could do.  So, I talked it over with Jason and we decided on some dates.  We will be having our couples interview on Monday, August 10, at 8:30. We will be going to her office in Fayetteville.  Then we will be having our individual interviews on Tuesday.  In between, our individual interviews she will doing our home study.  All of that is going to start at 2:00pm.  So, as of right now that is the lastest, but I will update more as the interviews and home study are done! :o)

Talked with the social worker

I called our social worker today. I just wanted to let her know that we sent in our paperwork. Sarah told me that she had been told that we did that. I was talking with her and she told me that she wants to get a lot done before she has to leave. I was like leave, she said yes, I am seven weeks away from delivering a baby. I told her congradulations!! She said that she would be calling us at the beginning of next week to schedule our interviews. I ask her if there was anything else that we needed to be working on. She told me we can start working on our profile. So, I started looking at different sites she suggested. I might ask my sister and/or brother for assistance on this. :o)

Finished the Paperwork

We finally finished our paperwork for the adoption. It tooks us a while to get it all together. It didn't help that June is a busy month for us. So, a lot of the time it paperwork got put off. There was a lot to it. We both had to do a self study on ourselves, and it was hard. It was asking questions concerning our childhood, family, and marriage. It was like writing little essays for each question. I am glad that part is done. I mailed it off to LR Monday, June 13 and it got there yesterday. Now we are just waiting to see what we need to do next!

Our decision

We knew before were were married that we were going to adopt. It was just a matter of when! After almost four years of being married we have decided it is time. We started looking at different agencies and lawyers. Not knowing really waht we were looking for, we just waited until we found the "right one." We got a lot of advice from a lot of people about where to go. We decided to fill out some papers with Bethany Christian Services. When we were done filling them out we needed to schedule an appointment with the social worker. We made the appointment for April 13, 2009. I was so happy when we left. The meeting really made me understand the whole adoption process so much more. Sarah, the social worker, told us to go home, think, and pray about what we wanted to do next. We talked about it a lot the next two days. We decided to go with Bethany, and request our formal packet of information. I called to let Sarah know this on April 15, 2009. She told me we would receive the packet within the next few days. I was so excited when I got off the phone. I wanted to scream, but seeing how I was at work, I couldn't really do that. I emailed some friends and family just letting them know what we had decided to do. It wasn't long before my mailbox was overflowing with replies. They were excited to hear the news. They said they would keep us in their prayers. Carrie, my sister, sent me a text saying she was going to be an aunt! She told me she was working on her name, because she didn't like aunt Carrie. I told her she could be aunt Carebear, and she said NO!!! Then, she came up with Tia Carrie, that is Spanish. She said Aunt Carrie Anne was too long and rhymey. Then she got silly, and said Carrie Aunt. I told her that I am sure she will be happy with whatever the baby calls her! :o)

The Conversation

This has been years ago. I think it was in the summer of 2003.
I was talking with my Mom, and she ask me if I told him yet. I said no, and she told me that I needed too. Finally I said, ok today is the day. I had a doctor's appointment in Little Rock, and Jason was going with me. Well, we had made it to Little Rock and I hadn't told him yet. So, we ate and did some other stuff while we were there. We started to head home. I got quiet and he ask if I was ok, I told him I was and that I had some stuff on my mind. He said what is it, and I just told him something, but not what I needed to tell him. I finally got up the nerve to tell him. I ask him if heard me tell the nurse all my medications. He said yes, and I said I guess you heard that I am on birthcontrol. I told him, I am not going around sleeping with other men, but I have to have that to regulate my hormones. I said, due to my past medical history, I am not able to have kids. By this point I am crying. I didn't know what he was going to say or what he was going to do. I just looked out the window, not wanting to look at him. It seemed liked forever before he said anything. When he did, it was nothing that I expected. He said, that does not matter to me that you cannot have kids. I love you for who you are. I fully belief in the adoption process, because I am adopted. I looked at him and I couldn't believe my ears. I was crying even more at this point. He said, we are gonna have to pull over so I can hug you. So, we pulled of in London, AR. We hugged for I don't know how long,but I was glad to have that conversation with him. It was like from then on we were meant to be together!